In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful.
This chapter examines the period of time whereby Muhammad (peace be upon him) was spreading the message of Islam openly instead of limiting it to only family and friends. It was quite a dangerous and trying time.
Therefore, it was fascinating to see that as one of the many trials that a married couple might have to undergo. Imagine our suffering brothers and sisters in places like Aleppo, Gaza, and Syria… having to part with their partners with genuine worry for their safety, not knowing if they will come back home. That must have been what Khadijah (blessings be upon her) went through went Muhammad was pretty much a walking target. The fact that his own uncle, Abu Jahal, wanted to kill him with a boulder, emphasises just how dangerous it became for him.
Yet, we have couples arguing over petty issues, augmented by lack of effective communication, personal egos, and maybe in the first place, lack of genuine love for each other.
What I really like was the author wondering if Khadijah actually sent her daughter Fatimah (blessings be upon her) to spy on the enemies of Islam and inform the family should there be plans to endanger her father, Muhammad. That was pretty intelligent of Khadijah if that was so. What I can take away from this is that as a potential wife, I will need to be intelligent in handling affairs like Khadijah. Also, this is very important to note, perhaps it is okay to collect intelligence and information about our husbands. However, do so if there is genuine concern for his safety and well-being. Do not spy on him unnecessarily, really. I think that is possibly damaging to the relationship when you keep on trying to actualise something that was never there. I mean that in terms of always being suspicious of the husband cheating on you when he really doesn’t.
So yeah, moral of the story is, be intelligent in handling affairs.
And He is Knower of all things. – MM