In the name of Allah, the All-Compassionate, the All-Merciful.
Oh, my God. I HAVE BEEN SICK FOR FOUR WEEKS NOW!
First week: diarrhea. Second week: Flu after midnight shift. Third week: Diarrhea after midnight shift. Fourth week: Flu.
Illness plus consecutive weeks of midnight shifts plus conseutive weeks of friends’ weddings plus my own wedding preparations have kept me away from my business. Wtf.
Supposed to get the website done by tomorrow….but nope. Suddenly, my childhood friend is getting married tomorrow too.
So I decided to tank both friend’s wedding and discussing my wedding plans at the same time tomorrow. Le papa and la mama are going so I decided to bring le fiancé along we four can confirm some details.
Like the monetary gift that Malays usually like to have at wedding aka the duit hantaran. Going to have some serious negotiation with la mama. I really don’t want it but since she insisted, I’mma do it my way.
*rubs hands in glee*
I really don’t see the point of framing thousands of dollars when I can use that money to book a world tour.
So it is either she settle for the mandatory amount of monetary gift aka the mahar, or I’m setting it at $111. Just because. My proposition is that we create a money tree out of the $111. So 11 one-dollar coins would look like the fruits and the green five-dollar notes and red ten-dollar notes would look like the leaves. The idea is that we continue to grow our money tree throughout our marriage by adding on $1 coins, $5 notes, and $10 notes. The money tree shouldn’t be touched unless in cases of emergency. I think that would definitely be more symbolic and meaningful. La mama insisted on duit hantaran as she claimed that it is to kickstart our marriage life. Well, isn’t the money tree a kickstart and an actual sustainable idea?
We all win!
So I hope that plan works tomorrow but don’t you worry. Sometimes, it is good to heed advices but sometimes, you have to heed your own advices because in the end, you’re the one living your own life. Not others. What may suit others, may not suit you. You can’t put a cookie-cutter template on the way of life. Basic moulds, maybe, but not the exact preset ones.
However things turn out, la mama and I love each other and want the best for each other. So I’m not too worried about it. At the very least should she want it set above $500, I’ll just opt for el cheapo ring.
Between a ring and honeymoon, come on, mate, you know I will definitely choose honeymoon. You can always buy rings anytime but for a honeymoon experience while you’re still fit and healthy? Damn son, better get in right away!
Can’t wait for the next 12 hours to whiz by because I’ll get to see Beedin!
And Allah is the best. – MM