In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.
Hi there! Nothing much happened for the past 30 mins of 15 December. Just that I’ve begun a new hair and facial routine. It’s getting more real now that I’m going to be a bride in less than five months from now so I really have to start prepping my skin for the big day.
Other wedding-related updates will be that we have secured the date, time, and solemniser for our wedding last night. I didn’t get my top three choices and I guess, it was meant to be that I had to choose someone quickly yet at the end of it, I feel rather satisfied with my choice. So Alhamdulillah for that.
In case if you’re wondering who it is, I managed to pull a snippet out of MUIS’s ADIL’s website.
It’s sort of a full circle for us because le fiance really wants to go to Kaplan to pursue a diploma in IT and that man graduated with one albeit in a different field. I went to PERGAS before, which led me to frequenting Masjid Kassim a lot back then and that man is an Imam there.
Like I said, perhaps it was meant to be.
So that’s another matter settled. It’s like we’re dealing with one matter every month nowadays. Next month, we’ll be heading to ROMM for document verification and statutory declaration. Basically they really want to ensure that we are who we claim to be and that we are within the right frame of mind for marriage. Forced marriages are a no-no in Islam so they will ask the bride if she really wants to marry the groom and vice versa. They are also particular about the person marrying the bride off, in my case, my father. He also needs to be of sound mind and judgment. They also want to ensure that polygamy doesn’t happen without the knowledge and consent of the women involved, especially. Hence, the need to declare our status clearly and truthfully. For those who have to pay maintenance to their ex-wives, they also have to declare the amount and produce the divorce certification. Marriage is a huge responsibility in Islam so it is pertinent that both sides are made aware of each other’s backgrounds and that both sides are willing to be married and are under no compulsion and the marriage has to be officiated and witnessed by mentally sound people who resonate the religion’s ethos.
So that’s that. A little bit of information for all to know about Muslim marriages. Well, at least for the ones in Singapore.
On to other updates in my life…
I am sad to say… I haven’t been doing anything I planned to do. Yep. I will admit that.
I have also yet to touch my now-super-dusty Quran. Huhu.
For some reason, I have become very thirsty lately, especially when I have my menses. So I’m happy to say that I have been drinking at least one cup of plain water! Huzzah!
I’m hoping to increase my intake of plain water to two cups next month!
Speaking of habits, I really want to have more time. How do I get more time? By waking up early.
I used to be good at it. Setting resolutions in 2016 really helped me a lot. But for some reason, I just lost the momentum.
Well, actually, admittedly, after I got to know Beedin, all routines just went out of the window. HAHAHA! That’s because we were staying up all night talking, getting to know each other. We still talk at night quite frequently during his break time since he’s working as a Night Filler and I often get the closing shift, reaching home late enough to stay up for a chance to talk to him.
Buuuuut if I want to have great skin, I need my beauty sleep on top of increasing my plain water intake. I decided to go for a little motivation from YouTube:
I like the way she presented the topic. Really easy for me to relate and it’s useful and insightful. Props to her.
So now that I’ve gotten all the tips, the only thing left to decide is the time to wake up.
Because I’ve been struggling with the wake-up time, especially now that I’m working shifst. 5am is just not realistic if I work closing shift. On the other hand, I can’t afford to wake up at 6am if I’m working the opening shift because I need to be out of the house by then! For herself, she varies her wake-up time on weekdays and weekends. Should I do that too; vary my alarms according to my shifts? Or is it perennially better to set a constant alarm to acclimatise my body to a routine?
I think I’ll try the dual timings. The problem with setting a constant alarm is that my mind will go, “WTF WHY AM I WAKING UP EARLY WHEN I’M WORKING LATER ON IN THE DAY, I WILL BE DAMN EXHAUSTED”. And then I wouldn’t wake up early. And then it’s back to square one of lousy habits/routines.
So the timings will be 5am for opening shifts and 6am for closing shifts and off days.
Okay, so that’s settled then!
In order to see if this will work out, stay tuned for a post from me later at 6am onwards! It’s 1:35am now. I should be able to get some sleep. Laters!
And Allah is Al-Matin, the Steadfast. – MM
3 thoughts on “I Ramble: 15 December 2017”
I’ve never heard of people having to state how much maintenance the pay ex-wives but i suppose it’s quite a sensible thing to know. where are you from? im just curious…
I’m from Singapore.