In the name of Allah, the All-Compassionate, the All-Merciful.
Man, I know I have been inactive on MM but golly, a lot of things have been happening.
Le fiance and I completed our marriage course on the 14th May and we received the certificate for it. Tada!
I just love this photo I took of him receiving the certificates:
He was saying that he will build our marriage upon sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah. That means tranquility built upon love and compassion. They got all the couples to say it out loud whenever the male partners receive the certificates. I think it is like a promise we make to ourselves. The course was good. I think every couple, Muslim or not, should go through a marriage preparatory course. For the course we attended, we went beyond the textbook. We even talked a whole lot about sex! Hehehe. Whether the majority would acknowledge it or not, sex is extremely important in a marriage. Don’t be afraid to ask sex-related questions during your marriage course. It helps you learn things you wouldn’t even think of, even if you think you are the biggest pervert in the world.
I guess that photo is also like a preview of how it will be like during our solemnisation!
Can you see how happy he is?! Hehehe. It’s only a marriage course certificate but it’s as though he received the actual marriage certificate! Hahaha!
He’s so handsome. ❤ Can you believe he got hit on by a couple of teenage girls yesterday in his home elevator?! Hahahaha!
Yesterday, le fiance and I headed to our wedding venue to check it out and talk to our wedding coordinator. I brought my parents and my sister Hidayah with me for support, guidance, and definitely wise input. I’m glad I decided to listen to friends who hollered at me to involve my parents in the wedding planning. We decided on the date, the food, and the package. We even put in a deposit of $100.
I guess things may be going faster than I thought they would go…that it may even take some people by surprise.
Anyway… so it’s official… I’m out of the childcare centre I was at. That’s another thing. Unfortunately, I’m not completely done with it yet. I still owe a couple of stuff…well, more like made to do but whatever, let’s just get done with it. I have bummed around for about two days now so I should get my shit together already.
I’ll be meeting le fiance to discuss our financial and wedding affairs. Things are really picking up for us. Alhamdulillah. Once again, I’m really really glad that we’re not having relationship issues. I guess we are both in the same place of wanting to settle down and start our own family that the thought of looking for other options or having any doubts are not applicable to us. People are right; when it comes to settling down, if it is going to happen, it will happen. I mean, if we were all to think about how le fiance and I met and got together, it wasn’t like I looked for him. Remember, I was out of a stupid first ever relationship that was so stupidly short-term and dramatic that I just was no longer interested in romance, as much as I like romance to a passionate degree. I decided to pursue another passion instead, which is music, which was pretty much how I first met him. I turned up for that first jamming session not looking for a partner. He turned up for that first jamming session not looking for a partner and then now here we are…partners for life who are passionate for the same things. All by His will. I just gotta influence him to start liking football though. Hahahaha!
So yeah, right now I’m in a good place emotionally and mentally. It’s rough financially but I’m being patient because it is a matter of time before my coin gets sorted out properly. I implore everyone to be understanding and patient about my current financial situation. I’m trying to make things work here. My anxiety lies in my HDB loan eligibility application and confirmation from my prospective employer. I really need the help that I can get from those two but they have both been quiet for some time and after the meeting with my wedding coordinator yesterday, I will definitely need to hustle on Monday.
So pray for me everyone. Keeping my shit together and keeping it real and keeping it going.
I also pray the best for everyone. May Allah ease your burdens and make your affairs easier on you. Amin.
And Allah is Al-Basir, the Seer of all. – MM